What Is Stopping You Asking For Help?

Communication skills Hampshire Some thoughts from  Lynda Nel my PA (2012-2015)

I was struggling with a tedious and mundain Excel spreadsheet that required copying and pasting information into columns, but the original information didn’t start out in columns.

You get the jist!  Sounds simple but complicated all at once – and I would have stuck it out with all 450 entries, until I suddenly thought “what would I like to have happen?”

Well.  I didn’t mind doing the work, I just imagined there should be an easier way of doing it.  So I gave in, and asked my husband for help.  Turns out Excel has a macro function that writes a little programme for what you want to have happen and when you press Cntl 4 it does it for you!  Simples  (as the meerkats say)!

Not so simple.  First, I had to actually take time out to realise I was probably going to work myself to a standstill to accomplish this task within the deadline, and that if I was willing to ask for help, it could probably be done more effectively and efficiently.  It was quite a big thing to recognise that I had to ask for help.

I realised this in another scenario recently when I determined that my 8 year old son was probably old enough to fold his underwear into piles and put pairs of socks together.  Why was I wasting my time doing it when he needed to learn invaluable life lessons folding his own.  I needed to ask him to help!  Turns out he likes doing it and for slave wages (pocket money) he will fold everyone’s undies.

How easy it is for us to ‘carry on carrying on’.  Are you too stubborn to admit you need help?  Do we think you should do it all by yourself?

What would you like to have happen?

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Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, is well known for her fast speaking and highly motivational passion. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to challenging conversations, lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough. Sheryl use to find it difficult to speak up and have her needs met despite the fact she could and would encourage everyone else to do exactly that. A series of 3 events in her personal life forced her to stop and learn how to take her own advice.

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Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening is well known for her fast speaking and highly motivational passion. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough. Sheryl use to find it difficult when criticised even when she knew they meant well and found it difficult to respond rather than react. A series of 3 events in her personal life exaggerated her emotional overwhelm and forced her to address this problem and conquer her sensitivity to criticism. Today she shares every day stories of every day people and inspires you to discover ways to gain clarity and confidence to change the way feedback and criticism impacts your performance.

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