What Are Your Motivators?

how to improve listening skillsThe biggest advantage of improving your listening skills is that you can start to notice patterns and develop greater understanding of what works for you and what doesn’t. In this article I want to share with you a tool that really empowered me to hear and understand what my motivators are.

Do you know what motivates you?

Do you know what de-motivates you?

I was really surprised to find that in fact the solution for me was in understanding more about what de-motivated me.

I did a motivational maps with Susannah Brade-Waring of Aspirin Business Solutions .

Here is the introduction from the report: Your happiness and success at work is partly determined by whether or not your core ‘motivations’ are being met. These motivations are not a conscious decision, but rather emerge from your self- concept, beliefs, expectations and personality. As with our purpose of life, we do not ‘invent’ motivations; instead. we detect them. It is vital to go with the grain of our motivators.

Motivation – your work must fulfil this Motivation if there is to be any real satisfaction.

 This is a very brief summary of what happened

  1. I completed an on-line questionnaire and received a report
  2. I then invested in an insight session to discuss the report
  3. The Report explained that my top 3 motivators are:
  • Spirit– I like freedom, independence,choice to make my own decisions autonomy
  • Expert– I like to been seen as the expert in my field, I like training and personal development,mastery, specialisation
  • Friend-wants belonging,friendship,fulfilling relationships

Well it does not take too much to know my company is about creating, building and maintaining win-win partnerships so it very much hits my need to belong and relationships. I have specialised in listening and feedback skills for business collaboration and partnerships, which is pretty specialised.  I also love learning ways to apply and blend this learning with other tools such as the motivational maps.

I have my own company and work my own hours, in fact I work 9 months of the year with 3 months allocated for travelling, home improvements and learning.

What was fascinating to discover is that despite achieving all my top 3 motivators something wasn’t working.  I felt I was stifled. It turned out that my lowest motivator is money – material worth.

I was asked to be mindful that that I might be frustrated by others who are motivated by this. This insight has proven invaluable over the years. The more I listened to and observed myself the more I noticed just how much this low motivator was preventing me from thriving.

I recognised a pattern of discounting my services or doing work for free. That was until I realised that earning more money meant more freedom. Sounds so logical now but back then it was so out of my awareness, I didn’t realise I was turning my back on contracts that could have created financial stability.

I am pleased to say that 4 years on I am now pricing in a way that works for me and my clients and even updating this article I am inspired to increase them further. I am also engaging with bigger companies and what always makes me smile I am also checking before I invest in anything whether I will get a good return on my investment…….the beauty of always learning.

If you would like to find out more about motivational maps contact Susannah.



About the Author – Sheryl Andrews – The Strength and Solution Detective

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Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, is well known for her fast speaking and highly motivational passion. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to challenging conversations, lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough. Sheryl use to find it difficult to speak up and have her needs met despite the fact she could and would encourage everyone else to do exactly that. A series of 3 events in her personal life forced her to stop and learn how to take her own advice.

Today, Sheryl runs retreats and one to one sessions resourcing you to do more of what you love, delegate what you don’t and ditch the critic that says you can’t.

Sheryl openly shares an easy to adopt communication tool kit that will transform the way you think, feel and understand those around you. Sheryl will be your strength and solution detective until you have fully trained your inner critic and those around you, to listen in a way that motivates and inspires you.

Fancy a virtual coffee and chat, then please feel free to book a complimentary clarity and confidence session or check out the “How to do, delegate and ditch with confidence” free webinar.

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Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening is well known for her fast speaking and highly motivational passion. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough. Sheryl use to find it difficult when criticised even when she knew they meant well and found it difficult to respond rather than react. A series of 3 events in her personal life exaggerated her emotional overwhelm and forced her to address this problem and conquer her sensitivity to criticism. Today she shares every day stories of every day people and inspires you to discover ways to gain clarity and confidence to change the way feedback and criticism impacts your performance.

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