Space Matters – Episode 1- How Going Back Moved Me Forward?

how to improve listening skillsI remember first learning about Clean Space in 2009. It was part of my initial training to become a certified Clean Language facilitator. It’s is a very simple and yet highly effective process. This is a great book if you like to read around the subject: Insights in Space.

I see all clarity calls as a way of taking your mind on a mini retreat. The beauty of technology means that my clients can physically move space whilst we work together. I might invite them to find a space that knows something else about what they want.

Clients are also encouraged to find a proxy space, for example if their first thought was “the beach knows more about this” and we or they don’t feel they have time to go to the beach, then they can find a space nearby that represents that space.

Going back in time

IMG_1174This is a photo of me in the whirly gig at Northern Clean with Clean Learning. I had become consciously aware of a thought and caught my critic saying I cannot go back over things. That meant I did not enjoy and therefore avoided things like analysing my accounts, my  social media insights, Google analytic’s, anything that basically meant going back into the past. And whilst I can delegate this task to those that love it, I as a business leader needed to be willing even if not as able to do this.  I was just playing at the conference but it presented a great opportunity to explore this thought.

So I got into the seat and was asked questions about ‘going back over data’ and where I would like to be. Thanks to this unique contraption I could ask to be physically moved backwards. . I had a belief that I could not go back. I had worked out the way I do time is very forward thinking. I love solutions and vision and possibility.

As I thought “I can’t go back” I asked the facilitator to move me backwards physically. As my feet rose above my head and I physically moved backwards something magical happened. My reality was contradicting my thought. IMG_1136 I remember my brain having a wobble because I was saying I couldn’t go back and I was going back.

It was like my brain shouted back you liar – yes you can, you are going back right now.

From that moment I have been able to and willing to go back over data to find the improvements and celebrate my successes as well as to look for areas to improve. That said I still partner with people who naturally ‘love’ to go over data because they create systems to interpret it so much faster than I can and they see things I miss.

Whilst I don’t own a whirly gig, I have seen many magical moments as clients stand on my sofa, lie on the bed and even take a walk around the block.  Each space giving them new insights and information.

The point being is the brain gains a different perspective if you physically give it one and sometimes for change to happen we have to physically experience it to embed it and make it the new way of thinking.

Turning overwhelm into clarity 

The more hectic our lives become the harder it seems for people to stop or change space. And more and more are working from home which makes life easier and it is cost effective but it can also contribute to overwhelm. If you feel stuck or like you are hitting the same brick wall or going round in circles, try getting up out of your chair and stretching or just turning around and notice what happens. Be playful about the different spaces you could create for different tasks.

Retreats

And sometimes we simply need a guide, a companion or facilitator for the day or week to walk with us and reflect our words and thoughts back to us and ask questions that we might not.

If you are sick and tired of the repeated pattern of overwhelm and you want to space and time to think and reflect then check out our Clarity and Confidence retreats here or get in touch for you very own bespoke breakthrough day and join us in the Bongo Campervan and we can literally explore all kinds of space in Southern Hampshire.

 

Sheryl Andrews – The Strength and Solution Detective

Author of Manage Your Critic – From Overwhelm to Clarity in 7 Steps

Sheryl Andrews – Founder of Step by Step Listening loves creating a space where individuals feel safe and able to explore the thoughts that prevent them from working and living at their best with others.

Sheryl learned from a young age how to be adaptable and accommodating to make others happy. But in doing so she lost sight of what made her happy . When considering doing more of what she loved the only thing she could think of was work. That was she knew something had to change. Sheryl now runs retreats and online group coaching course that provide you with a safe to speak space where you can unravel what is really holding you back.

Time is often the reason we give for not taking time to stop, reflect and think with clarity and confidence. If you have time monsters that constantly tell you that you don’t have time or not now later then please do check out “Tame your time monsters” It is a free workbook that will put you back in control of time in 7 simple steps.

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Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening is well known for her fast speaking and highly motivational passion. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough. Sheryl use to find it difficult when criticised even when she knew they meant well and found it difficult to respond rather than react. A series of 3 events in her personal life exaggerated her emotional overwhelm and forced her to address this problem and conquer her sensitivity to criticism. Today she shares every day stories of every day people and inspires you to discover ways to gain clarity and confidence to change the way feedback and criticism impacts your performance.

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