No One Should be Too Scared To Ask For Help…
This years charity campaign ends 2nd Dec 2017 on the anniversary of the launch of my book “Manage Your Critic”. I really didn’t like admitting that I had, in someway failed and yet when I did reach out and ask for help – the magic started to happen.
Do you feel bad about asking for help?
Many people I have listened to, get a horrible sick feeling that sits with them for ages when they know they need help and then something stops them from asking.
Sometimes it is simply that they don’t know what kind of help they want.
Other times they know what they want but they don’t know how to access it or they assume they can’t afford it and sometimes they really can’t.
And for many it is less tangible.
It has something to do with how asking for help makes them feel.
Every time I work with a client it is a case of listening without judgement or assumption as everyone has their own unique experience.
What is common to everyone I have worked with is that they all experience a sense of relief when they realise they are not alone. They leave feeling lighter and less weighed down when they have absolute clarity of what they want and they have confidence to ask for it.
Some do fear rejection, others fear being perceived weak or vulnerable and some just hate to put on others assuming they are far too busy. Ironically they are usually the ones offering to help everyone else.
3 Women are murdered in the UK every day due to domestic violence.
For too many people the fear of not asking has to become much greater than the fear of asking and for these women and their families the price they pay is too high.
Raise awareness and raise funds
This year I am raising money for two local charities that provide a safe to speak space where the individual is heard, understood and supported.
Women are often too scared to search on line for help or ask friends or tell family members and this amazing local charity provides resources, support and refuge for these in need.
Many in our community feel isolated and alone and don’t know how to reach out and ask for help, which is why I am also supporting the Square Pegs Charity craft and well being centre in North Cross Street Gosport. This is a haven for many who would otherwise find themselves alone.
What about you what is it that prevents you from asking from help?
This whole experience got me thinking – what can we do as a community that could make it easier for each of us to ask for help?
What can we do to help?
- Stop judging ourselves and each other for asking for help.
- Catch yourself and notice what labels you give others when they ask for help?
- Be curious when it is okay to ask for help and when isn’t it from your map of the world?
- Get better at asking for help and role model it for others
- Praise others for reaching out and asking for help
- Be willing to listen without judgment and ask others what help they need? If any?
- Spread the word – like and share this blog post
- Join the on line community Manage your critic and develop your listening skills so that you might be better resourced to make it easier for someone else to ask for help
- Donate to the page
- Buy a copy of my book and I will donate £5 to the charity for every copy sold Oct, Nov and Dec 2017.
- Book sessions with me – I will also be donating 10% of all new sales from now until the end of December.
A massive thanks to gentlemen at Flash On Air for all your support.
I am on a campaign to now to no one feels scared to ask for help.
Feel free to share below your thoughts or join us in the Facebook group Manage your critic
If you are struggling to be heard and understood and it is preventing you from doing your best work and living your best life then please do book a 30 minute call today with no obligation and I will happy set you up for success. I might be part of the solution you need and I might not but you will you know your next best step. Or you can Purchase a copy of my book here
Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, is well known for her fast speaking and her passion to make things happen. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough.
That was until she learned the importance of being heard and asking for support. In her book she describes the step by step journey she took to learn how to manage her critic turning her overwhelm into clarity in 7 steps.
Sheryl now runs retreats that encourage you to really listen to what you need to work, learn and live at your best with others and the confidence to ask for those needs to be met.
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