How To Conquer The Time Monster?
One of the most common causes for overwhelm is the fear of not having enough time. It can create this massive monster in our mind and before we know it all we ever seem to say is “I don’t have time.”
Our thinking can become consumed with how little time we have rather than with productive and effective thinking about how we can maximise the time we have.
Time in my experience is not the problem and it is more our perception of time in relation to our desired outcomes that is the culprit.
When we lack clarity of what we want, why we want it, what works for us and how long it will take we often get consumed with indecision and procrastination quickly follows. That can often mean we don’t have any sense of progress because it feels like nothing has been achieved and so the spiral of the time monster continues.
Mostly we are operating on perceptions of how long we think things could or should take and rarely do we have accurate evidence of how long it realistically takes. And even when we do have estimates life doesn’t always go to plan.
So even if we have a model of how long it took someone else then we might be lacking the model of how long it takes us or perhaps awareness of how this particular task is different.
Book writing is a great example with some book writing courses infer that you can write a book in a weekend whilst I took years to get my book out of me.
What it really comes down to as always is clarity.
Understanding what kind of book, how well you know the subject you want to write about, how confident you are in the subject you are writing about, how confident you are in your writing style and whether you are doing it alone or with help.
For example maybe the course that is designed to write a book in a weekend is referring to a 20,000 word book whereas my book was 50,000. Maybe they are making many assumptions that the writer has clarity of their own process and what they want to write about.
We can often compare ourselves with others with no awareness of the differences or many variables that mean we are not comparing like for like.
Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.”? Bill Gates
“Most people overestimate what they can do in a day, and underestimate what they can do in a month. We overestimate what we can do in a year, and underestimate what we can accomplish in a decade.” by Matthew Kelly from the book The Long View”
There are hundreds of quotes that endorse the general perception that many of us under estimate what we can achieve in a year and over estimate what we can achieve in a month.
Our perceptions of time vary drastically from one person to another with each of us having our very own interpretation of what we mean by what we say regarding language around time. You only have to speak to a married couple who are trying to get ready to go out to notice the discrepancies. Even though they have both agreed what time they have to be at the destination and possibly even agree what time they need to leave invariably they are not ready at the same time.
I call this the setting yourself up for success time. I believe this happens because we often underestimate what needs to happen before leaving and therefore don’t start the process of getting ready far enough in advance. Mark and I have lots of laughs now about what is involved to get us both to the front door at the same time.
Another great example was today when the carpet fitter text to say he would be here mid morning. For me mid morning is 10 a.m. for him it turns out it is between 11 a.m. and 12 noon. By asking for clarification of what mid morning meant to him it helped me manage my time effectively.
Here is a short video (15 mins 33 secs) that shares one strategy you can do to improve your perception of time and how it impacts your clarity and confidence. Interestingly – how many of your saw that the video was 15 mins 33 secs and thought that is not a short video that is a long video? or thought that is too long, I don’t have time for that. But what if I told you that this 15 mins video could bring harmony to your world and change the way you feel about the rest of your day? Then what happens?
I hope you enjoyed the video. I would love to know what you thought, any insights you gained. Your comments help me to evaluate what works and what I should do more of and what I should do less of. So I am happy for all comments be it positive affirmations that is is useful but also things you think I could do to improve and if you don’t agree with me then tell me why. What is your experience?
Feel free to share below your thoughts or join us in the Facebook group Manage Your Critic – Clarity confidence and change.
If you are struggling to be heard and understood and it is preventing you from doing your best work and living your best life then please do check out my book “Manage your critic – From Overwhelm to Clarity in 7 steps”.
Alternatively book a 30 minute call today with no obligation and I will happily set you up for success by helping you understand what you want, is this the right time and what kind of support you need right now if any. I might be part of the support you need and I might not be but either way you will you know your next best step.
About the Author – Sheryl Andrews – The Strength and Solution Detective
Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, is well known for speaking fast speaking and her passion to make things happen. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough.
That was until she learned how to manage her critic and turned her overwhelm into clarity and confidence in 7 steps.
Sheryl now runs retreats that encourage you to really listen to what you need to work, learn and live at your best with others and the confidence to ask for those needs to be met.
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