Plan, Do or Review – Social Media Planning Strategies

how to improve listening skillsIt gives me great pleasure to introduce you to Sofia Pacificio Reis of Increase Your Social Reach 

Planning is not something we are all hard wired to do or at least that is what some people think. And yet the more I model how people plan at their best the more I realise we all plan but what we don’t all do, is document our plan or even express it out loud. Some don’t even like to admit they have a plan for fear someone else might take it over or try to change it.

What does the word planning mean to you? Continue reading Plan, Do or Review – Social Media Planning Strategies

Are You Waiting For a Crisis Before You Take Action?


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what is changeHow often do you reach crisis point before you actually stop?

So many people spend years complaining about their job, then one day they are made redundant and suddenly they find themselves with an opportunity to turn their dreams into a reality.

I hear of people wanting time off – then they get ill and get the time off – albeit not quite as they would like.

I believe our body and mind gives us lots of warning signs and hints and yet too much of the time we ignore them.

Learning to slow your thinking down and really listen you can and will gain clarity and confidence to create the change you want in your life.

The importance of taking time out. 

The top sports people know it and yet many don’t you feel okay about taking a break?

When you take time out it gives you the opportunity to gather your thoughts, your emotions, your ideas and make sense of what has happened or is happening.

This can prevent overwhelm.

Have you noticed how heavy your thoughts become when they are stuck in your head going around and around? Or how your energy and productivity are impacted when you cannot gain clarity of your thoughts.

Perhaps when your emotions are locked inside going around and around you might find a massive weight on our shoulders or a tangled mess in your stomach.

In the age of information it is so easy to become consumed with so many possibilities and choices. Without time to process it is often difficult to make a decision and act.

Take a moment now and stop…take a deep breath. Get your body comfortable. Check in if you are in the right space, at the right height and facing in the right direction.

What is happening now?

What is working for you right now?

What would you like to have happen? 

Notice any resistance you have to the thought of stopping.

Notice where your attention is? What is happening to your body?

It might be that it really is not the right time right now to think about this, consider when will you come back to this activity? Notice how many times you have put off this thinking and how long you have been in overwhelm?


Is this a thought you keep hoping will go away and sort itself out?


What would you like to have happen?

I recommend that you schedule regular time in your diary to stop, reflect, celebrate and plan.

I believe it doesn’t matter how often you stop, just that you let your brain know ‘when’ you will stop next.

I don’t know the science behind why it works only that it does for me and many of my clients.

Clients have said “When they have a session booked in advance they notice when they have problems they don’t spend much time worrying about it because they know they have time in their diary to think about it during their next session.”

Next time you have a problem that you cannot resolve that takes up a lot of your thinking, try creating an appointment with yourself and agreeing when you will think about it and notice what happens.

So why is it that you don’t stop even with regular persistent warnings?


Sheryl – The Strength and Solution Detective
Supporting you to do more of what you love and ditch the critic that says you can’t

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About the Author – Sheryl Andrews – The Strength and Solution Detective

Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, is well known for her fast speaking and her passion to make things happen. But what many of you may not know is that in private behind closed doors she was also no stranger to lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being good enough.

That was until she learned the importance of being heard and asking for support. In her book she describes the step by step journey she took to learn how to manage her critic turning her overwhelm into clarity in 7 steps.

Sheryl now runs retreats that encourage you to really listen to what you need to work, learn and live at your best with others and the confidence to ask for those needs to be met.

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When Is The Right Time To Value Your Knowledge?

celesteI was talking to IP – Intellectual Property expert Celeste who is hosting an event in Oxford in a couple of weeks.

This conversation was another of those moments when I was giving my opinion and advice about how her clients might be feeling and I realised I was talking about myself.

It got me thinking about other business owners like me who have worked for a number of years building up their business and slowly but slowly it turns from a hobby to a ‘proper’ business. Yes I have to admit I always thought it was a proper business and only when looking back I can see that I was playing at it. A business does need to make a difference and make money. I was not focused on profit but change for my clients. Now I focus on both and that has made the biggest difference recently. Continue reading When Is The Right Time To Value Your Knowledge?

Hard To Explain Niggles


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Although I am talking about my holiday in this article it also relates to business.

As you read about my experience, I encourage you to think about recent conversations and frustrations and notice any patterns.

Take time to consider how you could apply these questions and methods of developing clarity, confidence and change at work and home.


Do you answer questions honestly?    Continue reading Hard To Explain Niggles

Space Matters – Set Up – Episode 2 – Sometimes Your Office Is Not The Right Space

Tracey DDDIn this series of articles I want to share with you why space matters and how becoming curious about it can set you up to work, learn and live at your best with others. “Space matters – Episode 1 – I had to go backwards to go forwards” might also be of interest to you.

Understanding what you need will make sense of why sometimes you feel uncomfortable which in turn impacts your focus and ability to pay attention and learn. Understanding can also resource you to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

I hope this activity will also inspire you to get curious about how space can and does impact your engagement and communication with others.

I came across Clean Set up when I worked with Caitlin Walker of Clean Learning and it is a resource I have now transferred from my client sessions to every day conversations and been astounded at the impact it has each and every time. Continue reading Space Matters – Set Up – Episode 2 – Sometimes Your Office Is Not The Right Space

Space Matters – Episode 1- How Going Back Moved Me Forward?

how to improve listening skillsI remember first learning about Clean Space in 2009. It was part of my initial training to become a certified Clean Language facilitator. It’s is a very simple and yet highly effective process. This is a great book if you like to read around the subject: Insights in Space.

I see all clarity calls as a way of taking your mind on a mini retreat. The beauty of technology means that my clients can physically move space whilst we work together. I might invite them to find a space that knows something else about what they want.

Clients are also encouraged to find a proxy space, for example if their first thought was “the beach knows more about this” and we or they don’t feel they have time to go to the beach, then they can find a space nearby that represents that space. Continue reading Space Matters – Episode 1- How Going Back Moved Me Forward?