Why Is Christmas A Trigger?

Christmas is always intended to be a time for joy, laughter and connection and yet for many it can be a time of triggers and frustrations.

So why is Christmas a trigger? 

For those that know my line of work – you know that I work with you to gain clarity of what you want and the confidence to ask for it.

Your 5 senses are processing information all of the time and it is your 5 senses that are used to recall memories.

And sometimes memories are triggered involuntary because of the association with certain smells, tastes or touch. It could be the sound or tone of something or someone that triggers a thought. You might be aware that certain words or epxressions push your buttons and annoy or frustrate you and for some the response is one that cannot be explained with words. You know those moments when you respond emotionally and even you know that the response is not rationally. Continue reading Why Is Christmas A Trigger?

The Power of Pronouns

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Working, learning and living with others is dependent on us having clarity of what want and the confidence to ask for it. And yet no matter how much you might practice what you are going to say or think before you speak somehow you can still be misunderstood.

When I am working with clients I notice language patterns and ask questions of specific words to help them gain clarity and insight. Sometimes they are not actually saying what they mean.

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Standing Tall – An Introverts Perspective

Over the years I have worked with extroverts that talk fast and rapid and end up exhausted because no matter how many different ways they express themselves they still cannot get themselves heard and understood.

I have worked with introverts who get frustrated that by the time they have formulated an answer the conversation has moved on.

Whatever your natural way of processing and making sense of the world, it can be challenging to find your voice and speak with clarity and confidence all of the time.  Continue reading Standing Tall – An Introverts Perspective

Reputation and Public Relations

50 days until I am 50 – Charity Challenge still on to lose 50 lbs before I am 50 on the 15th Dec 2017 – so far 17lbs lighter and now writing daily to stay accountable.

Yesterday was a busy day so didn’t really have time to over eat and failed to get any fitness in.

My proud of moment was when I said no to cake at the Women’s Business Club Lunch where Lorna Jackson from Advance and Get Noticed was speaking about everything PR. Continue reading Reputation and Public Relations

Honesty Is A Lie

51 days until I am 50

Yes I ate cake yesterday. No I don’t feel bad. No I didn’t lose weight today. What you probably don’t want to know even though it is the truth is the ins and outs of my decision making process yesterday and why I don’t feel guilty or why I know I will lose weight this week. Or maybe you do?

On a whole other level of honesty, you probably don’t want to know but I am going to tell you anyway. One of the reasons I think I didn’t lose weight today is because I got weighed earlier due to commitments today so it was before my ‘normal morning bathroom routine’ Yes I know too much information for some – but fact and quite relevant I think too.

 

How Honest Do You Want Me To Be?  Continue reading Honesty Is A Lie

Do Numbers Motivate You Or Terrify You?

52 days until I am 50 years old.

It is interesting as I listen to all kinds of stories of how different people respond to or react to a ‘BIG’ birthday.

 

Personally I am really looking forward to this next transition. As I become more curious about the power of the universe and how I can get what I ask for – I am being very clear I want to live to 100 and so that means at 50 I am only half way.

I am also marking this day as a day to step into the whole of me fully.

To fully embrace the whole of who I am and who I want to be.  Continue reading Do Numbers Motivate You Or Terrify You?

No More Excuses

Having dreamed of writing a book for years and finally becoming a published author last year, I decided to use the book launch as a catalyst for change.

With this in mind I set myself a massive challenge this year to raise £20,000 for my chosen charities.

As the year comes to an end I have ‘only’ raised £2426. I started to feel I had run out of time and I found myself more and more frustrated with my lack of motivation and commitment to the goals.  Continue reading No More Excuses

No One Should be Too Scared To Ask For Help…

It doesn’t matter whether you are a male or female – rich or poor it would seem we can all get a little uncomfortable when it comes to asking for help.

This years charity campaign ends 2nd Dec 2017 on the anniversary of the launch of my book “Manage Your Critic”. I really didn’t like admitting that I had, in someway failed and yet when I did reach out and ask for help – the magic started to happen.

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What Happens In Spain Stays In Spain..I Don’t Think So!!

As we sat around the table near the pool on the final night of this years writing retreat the ladies shared what had happened for them during their stay with us.

Each lady talked, and everyone listened intently and then something happened. It is hard to describe but there was that moment when everyone seemed to consciously aware of what had been achieved. 4 books with the wisdom of these 4 woman had been developed and shared and in doing so a connection hard to describe had been made. What followed was moments of true joy represented with both tears and hysterical laughter. Continue reading What Happens In Spain Stays In Spain..I Don’t Think So!!